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8 Current Manhood REALITIES
Sadly, these realities are the masculine norms for most men around us today.
It all starts with…
1 LACK OF CLARITY
Most men today lack clarity of what it means to be a man. As a result, men are in a state of confusion. A lot of men lack real confidence in their masculinity. They never had a clear pathway from boyhood to manhood.
2 DISAPPOINTMENT WITH LIFE
A lot of men are experiencing disappointment with life. After high school or college, We had all these expectations of life… and the world being full of opportunities. But that’s not what happened. For a lot of us, the responsibilities just piled up… while the fun and adventure drained out.
3 PAIN
Men are experiencing PAIN. Pain that’s not resolved. We don’t tend to talk about pain… we just stuff it and put a lid on it. This can be pain from your childhood, from a failure… the loss of a dream. It can also be expectations that weren’t met at a particular season of life. Regardless of the cause… all of us are wounded to some degree or another.
4 LONELINESS
Men today are lonely. We live in the most connected time in the history of the world. With an increase in technology, there’s been a decrease in intimacy. We keep others at a safe distance. We have lots of acquaintances… but lack a deep connection with others. The typical male is often friendless, disconnected and alone.
5 DRIFTING
Many men today are drifting. There’s no internal vision for life. They’re simply reacting to life, instead of purposely engaging in life. What pulls them through life is a sense of what they ought to be doing. Be a good boy, go to work, stay out of trouble. This is as high as it gets for our calling to manhood. It’s like we’re waiting for some mystery switch to be flipped… and all of a sudden we’ll be reasonable, have the career of our dreams, and the deep relationships we truly desire.
6 ESCAPISM
Without a noble calling men are turning to escapes to numb the pain. To keep themselves from having to face the reality of a lonely, drifting, and disappointing life… that’s buried beneath the surface. These escapes are killing our hearts. They’re inflicting poison and collateral damage on everyone around us. We’ve become workaholics. We run towards excessive sports, excessive alcohol, excessive gambling, We run to adultery, internet pornography, and anger. We run to escape reality because we don’t know what else to do.
7 CONFUSION
Confused men create major problems. It’s been proven over time, that there’s nothing more dangerous than an insecure, ungrounded man who is adrift. Bars love them, casinos expand because of them, gangs recruit them, prisons are full of them, and women and children suffer under them. Just watch the news or read the front pages. Almost every single social problem rests at the feet of men.
8 LACK OF VISION
Without a compelling vision and a definition of manhood to guide you… men will settle for less in life. We’re wired by our creator to make a difference, to lead, to cultivate… and to add value. This is a foreign concept to so many men. Some of us have checked out and are simply going through the motions. Others are aggressive, ambitious, and are taking initiative, but it’s all in areas that don’t even matter. And the areas that DO matter, we’re flatline and passive.
THE SOLUTION
